Are the grandparents against homeschooling? The next time you are faced with the response, “You can’t homeschool, you will mess up my grandkids” remember these three things.
I remember the day well. The day I received my first dose of homeschool criticism. The offender? My own mother….
“Why isn’t she going to preschool today?”
“We are trying out a homeschool group today mom. I told you I was considering homeschooling”.
“Please don’t do that, all those kids are “weird”! “
“Mom, I promise you they are not weird”
“Listen, I just don’t want you to mess up my grandkids, okay?”
This conversation repeated itself at least a dozen times in the first 2 years we homeschooled. The response from my father and many other family members was similar. They weren’t worried about us learning how to homeschool, they just wanted us to know they were against us homeschooling.
The truth of the matter is, sometimes our parents are our worst homeschool critics. Why is this? I believe it is because outside of us, they are the ones with the most to lose.
So, what can we do when the grandparents are against homeschooling?
Remember that they love us, and our kids
If this wasn’t true, then they wouldn’t care what we did with them. They want to make sure our kids have everything that we didn’t have, plus some. They want our kids to fit in, have a good education, and to become upstanding citizens. Should we fault them for that?
I shared with you before how my mom was NOT my biggest homeschooling fan. But, now? She had a front row seat at my first workshop on homeschooling and swears up and down I have converted her. I didn’t do this by shoving statistics down her throat. I did this by inviting her along on field trips, allowing her to show up while the kids were doing school, and by quite frankly, giving my kids a top-notch education. Do you believe homeschooling is the best thing for your children? Then educate your parents, by proving that fact. It may take a year, or two, or three…. But the time will come when they will finally realize that maybe you are not messing up their grandkids!
This is HUGE, and a mistake I made often. If my parents made a comment about homeschooling, I would immediately get defensive. I would throw out statistics, or say things like “THAT is why I homeschool”. Looking back, I truly believed that these things would make them see that what I was doing was okay. But, instead, it often led to an argument. The best thing to do when faced with criticism is to let it go. Seriously. Homeschooling is your right, and you don’t need anyone else’s permission. State that fact, and let the discussion rest. You will get nowhere arguing.
So, the next time you are faced with the response, “You can’t homeschool, you will mess up my grandkids” remember that homeschooling is your right, so don’t argue that point. Remind yourself that your parents love you, and your kids, and remember the best education for your parents is to model homeschooling done right, and leave the statistics for another day and time!
What advice would you give to homeschool parents facing criticism from grandparents?
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