Homeschooling has its good days and its bad days, and with every day comes a few homeschool pet peeves.
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Homeschooling, really, I have a love/hate relationship with it. It has been a HUGE blessing to my family, yet really, it’s not all peaches and cream. Homeschooling has its good days and its bad days, and with every day comes a few homeschool pet peeves.
Paying Taxes to the School District
This one is one of those that I totally get. I do. Not everyone is called to homeschool, and I know that the school NEEDS to be funded, BUT if I am helping to fund the public school why can’t I reap the benefits?
This has been a huge pet peeve of mine this past school year, and the one prior. My son has had some health issues that have led him to need speech services. However, because we don’t want to enroll him in public school, they don’t have to offer him speech. This is the case statewide and one I have contacted HSLDA over. The result? They can deny him, which means I’ve been paying out of pocket for a private speech therapist to come into my home and give my son the services he needs, that he could get from the school. For free. With my tax money.
We test our kids each year, and I am for standardized testing in most cases. However, can I just say I HATE testing season? It is such a stressful time of year! For the kids. For us moms. And when a certain area comes back lower than expected…. we ain’t got no one but ourselves to blame :/
Going along with testing is the pressure to perform. Knowing that I am solely responsible for my children’s education is a huge weight sometimes. Especially when children with special needs are involved. Add the pressure we get from others (you know, the family who doesn’t approve, critics at the supermarket, local school district officials) and some times it’s enough to make a mom crack. Or run for caffeine, whichever she prefers!
Can I just tell ya’ll that keeping records for three kids is exhausting?! Portfolios, grades, attendance sheets, test results, I have a bookshelf full of homeschool records and we are not even halfway through our homeschool journey!
Add to this the paperwork that goes along with homeschooling all year long, and you have enough time spent in recordkeeping you could get a job as a bookkeeper. Don’t even get me started on how much MORE I’ll have to do come high school…
The Second Guessing
Homeschool moms carry a huge weight on their shoulders. They are the mom, teacher, wife, homemaker, housekeeper, nurse, principal, and friend. And the many roles of a homeschool mom oftentimes leave us asking if we are doing it right.
Should we be homeschooling? Wouldn’t it be easier to send them to school? Are all the pet peeves worth it? Really?
And we second guess ourselves, year after year, after year. We always doubt. We always worry about failing. We always wonder if it is enough.
Can I tell you something today?
Every pet peeve on this list is worth it. Every bad day of homeschooling leads to a day that’s wonderful. Every penny we pay into our children’s education is money well spent. When we feel the weight of the homeschool critics we can remind ourselves that God is molding us. When we file yet another paper, or grade yet another test, we can remind ourselves that we are training them up for such a time as this.
Are there pet peeves in homeschooling? OF course! Everything that is good will also have areas that test us!
But, they are worth it. Just vocalize them to a friend, remove the weight and remind yourself of the blessings 🙂
What is your biggest homeschool pet peeve?
So, I do not have a problem with paying school taxes. Ask yourself why it bugs you as a homeschool parent when it never bothered you before kids. Because everyone pays school taxes. 😊 It would be wonderful in ways to get a stipend but in reality every bit of state or government help allows them to have more control of how and what you teach. It is a blessing to give the money when you realize you aren’t having to deal with their constant demands and input.
In Ohio, where I am at, it is up to the school’s discretion whether or not they offer services to homeschooled students. Our school chooses to NOT offer help unless we enroll. It’s really pretty crappy in my opinion. Guess it shows it’s not all about the kids.
My son has always attended private schools, I was thinking he received speech therapy thru the public school system BUT he was in private preschool at the time. Hm…it was 10 years ago but I guess we were allowed to because he wasn’t of school age yet. So interesting. My pet peeve has always been why we don’t get some kind of tax break for paying into the public school system year after year with no kids attending.
We did the portfolio option one year, but every other year we have tested. It was a condition my hubby placed on homeschooling. And I used to get the socialization question ALL the time. I don’t as much now, but year I totally agree with you. Socialization is NOT what people “think” it is!
Mary Powell says
I live in Ohio and chose the portfolio looked at by a teacher. I am homeschooling my 6th and 7th children (have homescolled all of my children in Ohio since my oldest started kindergarten). We have never done testing, we always used caring and helpful teachers to do our portfolios. My pet peeve is the people who ask about socialization and have no clue that the public and private schools are not what real socialization is. It’s learning to deal with people of all ages.
Shelly Sangrey says
You nailed it, Misty. Just nailed it.
Yes, I know. Right across the river from us the don’t have to assess at all 🙁 We have the option in Ohio of testing or doing a portfolio review every year. We opt to test, but it still drives me nut!!
Testing is actually different in every state, here in PA we only have to test in 3, 5 and 8 grades. We don’t have to test every year. But we do have to do logs and portfolios to show our evaluators
I wish we had more options in Ohio. But yea, they are within the legal limits 🙁
Michelle Cannon says
I don’t really have any homeschool pet peeves. It’s a shame the school district doesn’t have to help you. In Florida, if you register under the school board’s Home Education Program (which I do NOT), the children can get help from the school AND participate in school extracurricular activities.
I choose the private school option, though. Therefore, I cannot reap any benefits from the public school programs. However, that also means I don’t have to keep records and that, to me, is totally worth it.
Pat Fenner says
I’m with you on all accounts, Misty! Thanks for sharing this on Coffee and Conversation last week…it’s always good to see you there 🙂
Have a great week!!