Too often times our spouses hear all the non-essential stuff, and little of the words that matter. What does our spouse need to hear us say?
He comes home after a long day of work and is immediately bombarded. The kids are fighting for his attention; I am dishing out dinner plates, and barely get a hello in. Throughout dinner he hears about our day, our messes, our fights and much more. This continues as he helps me wrangle the kids to bed before we both collapse on the couch.
I would love to say during this time we communicated.
I would love to say during this time I told him what he means to me.
But, the truth? We didn’t. I didn’t.
Too often times our spouses hear all the non essential stuff, and little of the words that matter. What does our spouse need to hear us say?
- I appreciate how you provide for our family.
- What do YOU want for dinner
- Let’s do something together, you choose.
- I love you.
- I love being your wife.
- You’re a great dad.
- You are a great lover.
- I respect you.
- You look amazing.
- I am so happy!
- I’d marry you all over again.
- I enjoy being with you.
- Your opinion is important
- I am so glad I chose you!
- I can’t wait to spend time with you
- Thank you
- I love how you lead our family
- I’m sorry
- Your feelings matter
- Our relationship matters
- Please forgive me
- I appreciate you
- You mean more to me than you’ll ever know
- Thank you for supporting me
- Thank you for helping me
- I need you
- How was your day?
- Thank you for praying for our family
- I am praying for you
- I believe in you
- What do you think?
Letting our spouses know that we love them, that they matter, that our marriage matters is crucial in any relationship. Respecting our spouse, their choices, and showing them appreciation helps strengthen our relationship.
If you say many of these words often, then try elaborating. Tell your spouse WHAT you appreciate about him, WHY you are thankful for him, and HOW he makes your life better.
Here are some creative ways to share these words with your spouse:
- Drop a note in his lunchbox
- Send him a quick text
- Whisper them in his ear before he heads off to work.
- Put a post it on the mirror while he is in the shower.
- Leave a note on his pillow before he goes to bed.
What do you think our spouse needs to hear us say?