Have you ever heard, You Can’t Homeschool ? One reason many give is the belief that kids will miss out. This is a HUGE misconception and one that needs to be debunked.
At least once a week I will be out and about with my kids and the topic of education comes up. I can guarantee at some point I will be asked about one of these things:
What about the prom?
Do they have friends?
Can they still play sports?
There is an assumption that because a child is homeschooled they will miss out on a social life, or certain “milestones” that other children have. The fact is that this is FAR from the truth.
What about the Prom?
This one makes me laugh the most. Why? Because I was asked about the prom when my daughter was in preschool. PRESCHOOL! The prom was the farthest thing from my mind. However, I now know that just because a child is homeschooled does not mean they have to miss out on the prom.
- They can go with friends! I now know a few homeschooled kids who have graduated and many of them did in fact attend the prom. They have gone with friends from church, boyfriends or girlfriends, and the fact that they were homeschooled did not make a difference.
- Homeschool groups can have their own prom. This is true in many large homeschool groups. I have seen or heard of at least half a dozen in my state.
On a side note, the prom is seen as a rite of passage in high school, but in reality is it really all that important? My husband did not attend the prom, and surprisingly he seems to have managed just fine without it….
Do They Have Friends?
Think about your best friend in the world. Did you go to school with them? Often times the answer is no. I do still have a few friends who I went to school with, and I am grateful for their friendships, but the majority of the people I know now, I met after school. That being said, friendship is a HUGE part of childhood, and many believe that homeschooled children do not have the chance to make friends. This is a HUGE misconception. Where can homeschooled children make friends?
- Homeschool Groups
- Their Neighborhood
- Church Camp
- Bible School
- Library Activities
These are just a few of the many places homeschool kids can make friends. I can say without a doubt that the friendships my girls have made through homeschooling have been a HUGE blessing. Also, oftentimes the moms become friends as well, and I am very grateful for that 🙂
Can they still play sports?
The answer to this question will vary from state to state. I am in Ohio, and the law recently changed to where schools MUST allow homeschooled children to play or try out for sports in their school district. If you are worried about this, I highly suggest you look into the laws regarding athletics and homeschooled children in your state.
If you happen to live in a state that does not allow homeschoolers to play sports that does not mean your child has to miss out. There are organizations like Upward that allow ALL children to play sports nationwide. You can also look into sports through the YMCA, local homeschool organizations and some churches even have sport leagues.
If you are considering homeschooling, you will be asked these questions often. Be prepared to deal with the criticism, but stand firm in your belief that you are doing what is best for your child. Regardless of what they may or may not miss out on.
Do you feel that your homeschooled child has missed out on anything?
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