My husband walks in the door, after spending the morning with the kids. I had some deadlines with work, and he wanted to help by getting them OUT of the house, he was also going to pick me up a gift bag for a wedding shower later that day.
The first thing I noticed? He did NOT have the gift bag. I asked why, he informed me that he forgot. Long story, short, I became the unglued wife.
How could he forget?
He had ONE task for me, ONE!
Had he been on the phone?
Did he even try to remember?
Why couldn’t he do this ONE thing?
This fight was not really about the gift bag. Fight’s like this rarely are. If you think back to the last time you became an unglued wife, I am going to guess the fight was due to one of these three things.
- A Past Hurt- Maybe the action you were upset about reminded you of a time you were hurt by your spouse.
- An annoyance- For me, this was the case that day. Forgetfulness does not go well with my organized nature.
- Stuffed Emotions-If you are one to stuff past hurts and annoyances, at some point they will blow up.
When we harbor any of these three things, we can almost guarantee that we will become an unglued wife. We are a ticking time bomb, and if left unchecked, we will explode!
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be an unglued wife. I don’t want my husband to have to worry about when I am going to explode. My explosive side is not pretty, and I would NOT want to be married to it. So, what can we do to prevent becoming an unglued wife?
- Pray! Ask God to help you get a handle on your emotions. When you begin feeling like you are going to explode, excuse yourself. Go somewhere and pray. Right then.
- Offer Grace! This is what needs to happen with the annoyances. I forget things. No matter how organized I may be. Yet, my husband doesn’t blow up on me over it. Why can’t I offer him the same grace? Figure out what your annoyances are, and remind yourself that YOU are NOT perfect. Why expect perfection from your spouse
- Talk it out! If you are a stuffer, you need to let it out. Nicely. Take the time to talk to your spouse about what is bothering you. Don’t let them eat you alive. The result is not pretty. Believe me!
This fight with my husband is not one of my proudest moments. I never thanked him for trying to help me. Instead, I picked at the one thing forgot. But, it happens. I am a work in progress, and sometimes I fail.
If this is you, I encourage you to offer grace to your spouse next time, pray that God helps you get a handle on your emotions, and talk it out when you are frustrated. Doing these things can prevent you from becoming an unglued wife!
Have you ever had an unglued wife experience? Please, share!
If you struggle with becoming unglued, check out Lysa Terkeursts book, Unglued!