Mom guilt stinks and is not warranted! Make the decision today to not let mom guilt rule your life.
I am sitting at the coffee shop, working. Well, I’m supposed to be working. Instead, a dozen thoughts are running through my mind.
Why am I here? I should be home, with the kids. Isn’t it selfish of me to spend time away from my family while I write this book? That’s not what a good mom would do. She wouldn’t leave her kids with their dad to go chase a dream. She would be home. Why am I so selfish?
The thoughts twirled around and around and I end up caving and going home. As I walk through the door I hear laughter, they sure don’t seem to be missing me. I walk in and tell my hubby why I’m home and he says, “You’re ridiculous, I told you to go work!”
Mom guilt. Why do we have it? It makes no sense to me at all.
- If a mom works, she feels guilty for not being home.
- If a mom is at home, she feels s guilty for not “entertaining” her kids every five minutes (I blame Pinterest)
- If a mom works at home, she feels bad for her kids seeing her work, when she “should” be interacting with them.
- Then there’s the laundry that’s never done
- The dinner that needs to be cooked (frozen pizza again?)
The to-do list doesn’t end, and neither does the guilt.
I wonder sometimes as my husband leaves for work every day why he doesn’t feel bad. You know why? Because he knows he has to go to work. He provides for our family. That’s his job.
So, why do we as moms beat us up over the exact same things?
Here’s the truth about mom guilt:
It’s not fair
It’s not warranted.
Mom, you are doing a good job. There is no reason to beat yourself up or feel guilty for doing something for yourself. There is no reason to sit and entertain your child every minute of the day. There is no reason to explain yourself for the choices you make. I think as moms we too often put this guilt on ourselves. We assume society is blaming us when in reality they are not.
Make the decision today to not let mom guilt rule your life. Choose to give yourself a pat on the back. Text a friend and tell her she’s doing a great job! Make the choice to encourage one another instead of knocking each other down.
Stand with me today and knock mom guilt to the curb.