You’ve given it a shot, but homeschooling just isn’t working. What do you do? We are breaking down how to handle what to do when homeschooling is hard.
I sat with my planner and counted days. I looked at our books and figured up how far in we were, and how far we still had to go. This evaluation let me know how we had done so far this year. But, it also let me know what we NEEDED to do better.
This is the time of year when most of us are evaluating our school year. We may ask ourselves the following questions:
- What has been working?
- What’s not?
- How many days do we have in?
- Are we behind?
But, what if your midyear evaluation just reiterates the fact that homeschooling just isn’t working for you? Maybe you’ve been trying and things haven’t gotten easier.
The kids are miserable.
What do you do?
Reevaluate WHY You are Homeschooling
Did you begin homeschooling because you felt led to? Or because you felt you HAD to? I have found there is a big difference. Those who felt led to homeschool tend to stay the course. Those who felt they had to, not so much.
Revaluate why you are homeschooling. If it is because you felt you HAD to (bullying, the husband insisted, kids weren’t doing well in school, violence, etc) then maybe reevaluate the situation. Has it changed? Or is it still the same? If you still feel you HAVE to homeschool then you may need to adjust your attitude. Take some time and look at the positives homeschooling has brought to your life. Make the decision to choose joy in your situation. Tell yourself (and your kids) you are ALL in. Once you have determined to stay the course because it is in the best interest of your family, you may be surprised how quickly the mood in your home changes.
Is it the Curriculum?
How is your curriculum? Is it too teacher intensive considering everything else you have going on? Not as hands-on as your children may need? Maybe the kids just DON’T like it. These are all legitimate reasons that will make homeschooling more difficult. Take a good solid look at your curriculum and see if there is anything you can change.
If you determine a change is needed, take a look at this book by Cathy Duffy. It not only helps with the curriculum, but it also helps you evaluate yours and your child’s teaching/learning styles. The book then breaks down how kids learn, and how you teach and helps you find a curriculum that fits both of those needs.
Are you TOO Busy?
Sometimes we are just TOO busy to homeschool. Yes, I know kids can learn anywhere, and books can be brought along. But, realistically, how often does that work long term?
Moms, it is up to US to ensure that we are not too busy to homeschool our children. This may mean seeing if we can cut back on a few commitments. When we are too busy we get burnt out, our kid’s school gets put on the back burner, and homeschooling will NOT work.
Do You Need to Just Quit?
Yes, I said that. Now, before I go on let me just say that I LOVE homeschooling. Homeschooling is great, for many families and many children, but sometimes it just doesn’t work.
I know homeschooling parents who have put their kids back in public school. Homeschooling was not working for them in their season of life. Some pulled the kids back out and are homeschooling successfully. Some have kids still in public school and the kids are thriving. Some have one kid in public school and others who are homeschooled. Homeschooling is not a one size fits all situation.
If this is you right now, I encourage you to pray. Talk to your kids. Talk to your spouse. Take some time and determine together what is the best situation for you and your family.
Homeschool moms need support. All the time, but especially when things just aren’t working. If this is you, find a friend to talk to. Pray. Take some time to yourself.
If you have a homeschool mom friend who is going through a rough time, hug her neck. If she is considering throwing in the towel, LISTEN to her. Don’t discourage her. Offer to pray with her. Don’t condemn her.
When homeschooling is not working that is the time we most need each other. Let’s lift one another up, not tear each other down. Let’s choose to encourage one another today.
What have you done when homeschooling JUST wasn’t working?
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