So, you feel like the school year was a failure. I have been there and I want you to stop and ask yourself these three things.
So, you feel like the school year was a failure. I have been there. Believe me. I felt that way this year! Yes, that’s right. Even though I shared smiling pictures of our homeschool days, deep down I felt like a failure.
We had no fun, hands-on projects this year.
My kids worked independently, a LOT!
Some of our goals were not met.
We ended the year before finishing the curriculum.
I have felt like that in past years too. There was the year one of my kids scored lower on testing than I thought she should. There was the year my husband was laid off 3 times in one school year. Our schedule was thrown out the window most of that year. There was the year I had a newborn and the year I had no clue what I was doing.
But, despite all of that, I have NEVER really had a failure of a school year. And, you haven’t either! If you think you have, I want you to stop and ask yourself these three things.
How do the kids think the year went?
If you ask my kids how this year went they will tell you it was awesome! Why? Because they truly believe it was.
Take the time to ask your kids how the school year went, and really listen. Maybe there are things they didn’t like. Take note of those. But, also focus on the things they think went well. Chances are your kids have no clue that you think the year was a failure, so why should you?
What DID You Accomplish?
When I stop and think about all we didn’t do, I get discouraged. So, instead, I choose to focus on what we did do! We completed many items on our bucket list, the boy learned to write his name, the girls learned to work independently, and we completed our mandated hours and days.
I encourage you to look back through the year and remember all that you and your family did accomplish. Maybe there was more life learning going on this year. A child learned to ride a bike? Did one learn cursive? The alphabet or how to read? Maybe a few goals were met instead of a lot. Regardless, count your accomplishments and don’t focus on what wasn’t completed.
What Did You Deal With This Year?
For me, I went through my first battle with depression and had a rough year emotionally. There were many days when I could barely make myself get out of bed, and complete work. So, my kids worked independently. A lot more than I would have liked. But, we trudged through, and surprisingly their test scores were way higher than we expected.
Maybe you moved your family to another home, had a baby, dealt with job losses, a death, or illness. These are all major issues and mom, you need to remember to give yourself grace. These issues do not make our school year a failure.
And if this was your first year homeschooling, I encourage you to KEEP on going! It takes at least 2-3 years of homeschooling to truly get into a groove or routine. So, don’t give up now. You can do this!
Dear Mom, if you feel like the school year was a failure, I encourage you to give yourself grace. Take the summer off. Remember why you began homeschooling and remember that the school year was NOT a failure!