I am walking through Wal-Mart with my three kids. Someone asks them why they are not in school. “Were homeschooled” my daughter answers. The lady looks at me and says, “Oh, bless your heart. I could never do that. I don’t have the patience”. I smile and respond, “Neither do I”.
If you homeschool, you can probably share a similar story. I can’t even tell you the number of times I have heard people say things like, “My kids don’t listen to me”, or “I could never do that”, or “Your perfect for that, but not me, it would be chaos”. What I don’t think people realize is that no homeschool family is perfect. We all have imperfect homeschool days. These happen more often than not.
I had originally planned to share with you one day in our homeschool, but I don’t think that would fully show you what homeschooling is like. Because some days are worse than others, and some days are incredibly easy. So, instead I am going to share some of what happens on our imperfect homeschool days.
- “Daniel, stop” is said at least a dozen times every morning during circle time.
- The nice and neat schoolroom? A disaster every day by dinner time.
- At least once a week we start school with papers still needing to be graded from the day before. My kids remind me of this with a sigh every time it happens.
- I wonder if I am messing up my kids. Especially when they don’t “get it” after the third, fifth or seventh time.
- “Girls, are you done? You need to stop talking” is said every day while they are supposed to be doing grammar.
- Tears happen. Sometimes from me, sometimes from them.
- The books are pitched because I have a deadline to meet for work.
- We go out to the grocery store and one of the kids display the “stereotypical” homeschooler behavior.
- “Focus!”is said at least 5 times a day during Math.
- My kids show they are smarter than I am, by sharing “We already knew that from Wild Kratts” during Science.
- Sometimes, Wild Kratts counts as Science.
- I yell.
- “Hurry up, we have to start school” is said during chores. Every. Single. Day.
- I ask myself how in the world can I do this through high school?
- I am too busy some days to even write a to do list, never the less actually DO what needs to be done.
- When my kids got their cavities filled, I counted it as a dental health day.
- Dinner may consist of frozen pizza and corn dogs more often than my menu would admit…
The truth is homeschooling is hard, and no matter how many times you think that “perfect” homeschool family has it. You are wrong! Very wrong! Most homeschool moms will admit their imperfection, and when you tell them about your bad day, most will hug you and tell you that you’re awesome and doing just fine. Homeschool moms get each other. So, don’t be afraid to share your imperfect homeschool days with other homeschoolers. If anything, it will make them feel more normal!
So, they next time you are with your homeschool group, remember to keep it real! Share your imperfections, your bad days, and your imperfect homeschools. By doing that we can encourage each other that we don’t need to be perfect!
I teamed up with the iHomeschool bloggers to bring you this post. Be sure to check out the other bloggers imperfect homeschools!