Special needs. It’s something that society has labeled a child with who maybe doesn’t fit the mold. Special needs can be anything from dyslexia to ADD, to Autism to a speech delay to cerebral palsy. These areas are all “special” and require special needs.
In my home, I have a child that many would say has “special needs”. I have vowed to NOT talk about these needs here on this blog. Not because I am ashamed. Not because I am in denial. But because the stories are not my stories to tell. It is not my job to tell the world about those special needs or what those needs are.
It is my job to be a mom.
However, I will say that raising children with special needs comes with challenges. It comes with hurt. It comes with the huge weight of knowing that the world is going to be harder for your children. It comes with the understanding that not everyone will “get” your kids. It comes with the reality that many will tell you how you should or shouldn’t approach these special needs. It comes with the realization that your child may never have that friend who truly gets them and loves them for who they are. It comes with challenges.
It is my job to meet these challenges head on.
Raising children with special needs mean that we have to see past those needs and into the heart of our children. We can look at our children and see past what the world deems different. We see the beauty that lies in the heart of our kids. We see past the “special” and see the joy of God’s creation.
It is my job to nurture the special that is my child.
Moms, can I tell you that sometimes at night I cry myself to sleep because I can’t “fix” what others see as “wrong”? Can I tell you that sometimes I wonder WHY my children need to struggle? Can I tell you that I want life to be easier for my kids?
Can I tell you that sometimes I don’t want to deal with the special?
But, then, in those dark moments where I doubt my ability, or I don’t want to wonder how we are going to get therapy or medical care, or their needs met I remember that God granted me the blessing of this special child.
God knew that the world needed their beauty, their joy, their compassion, their ability to truly see the needs of others. God knew that the world needed that special person who is my child. God knew the blessing this child had to offer.
So, moms if you are raising a child with special needs can I encourage you today? On those days where you doubt your ability, where you doubt whether or not you are equipped for the task at hand can I tell you that you are?
God equipped YOU to parent your child, to love your child, to educate your child. God granted YOU with the ability to parent special.
When we remember that, it is so much easier to see, choose and find joy <3