She walked by me as I typed away and asked for yarn. I told her where to find it. She walked by again and grabbed supplies out of the closet. “Do you need help?” I asked, never even looking away from where I was working. “No, it’s okay. I know your working”. I kept typing. Again, never making eye contact.
Later that evening as my husband and I graded papers, I saw her geography assignment. She was making a magnet. It looked like a really cool experiment. I realized then, that I had missed it. Missed doing it with her, missed seeing her eyes light up as she got it. I didn’t even know IF she got it. Why? Because I had my eyes glued on the computer.
This happened months ago, yet it is still hard for me to write. It still makes me tear up. I write about homeschooling, I help new homeschoolers, and lead a co-op. Yet I failed at homeschooling.
I cried to my husband that night. He told me he had seen it. The distracted glances, the over-scheduling, and the mistakes in the kid’s school work that kept happening. Yet, he didn’t say anything because he knew I would get defensive. Guess what, I did… I began making excuses, and then realized there was none.
I had failed, and the only thing I could do was start over, and learn from my mistakes. Moms, I guarantee you at some point in your homeschool journey you will fail too. It is bound to happen, and no one is exempt. When that happens, here is what you can do to pick yourself up and get back on the right track.
Acknowledge your mistakes.
The next day I apologized to my daughters and told them both that I had been distracted and not focusing on the right thing their education. I talked to my daughter about her geography project, what she learned and if it worked. It did! I offered to do it with her again, but she declined. I missed it, and have to say I was disappointed. If you fail, acknowledge your mistakes to your children. Apologize and tell them how you plan on making things right.
Reevaluate your priorities.
At that time I had been working crazy hours. I had way too much on my plate. Between this blog and my freelancing clients, I was working over my goal of 15 hours a week. I had over extended myself. I had misplaced priorities and needed to revaluate my commitments. If this happens to you, see what can go from your schedule. What is your priority and how can you make it happen?
Talk to your spouse.
I confessed my concerns to my spouse, he did the same. We made a plan to fix it. He supported my concerns, and we both agreed that I needed to cut back on my hours and clients and focus on homeschooling. He gave me 2 nights a week to work and I no longer work during naptime. Instead, I spend that time one on one with the girls doing Math. If you make a homeschool mistake, talk with your spouse and see what you can do to make things right. Make an action plan, and follow through.
Homeschool failures and mistakes happen, and when they do, don’t beat yourself up. Give yourself grace. Then, make a plan and learn from your failures. You don’t have to repeat them!
Have you ever failed at homeschooling? How did you pick yourself up and start over?
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